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It was early in 2008 that I consciously applied the Law of Attraction. I visualized myself as being financially independent and resonating Success but at that time, I was pretty broke.

I was a person who gave good value and had my small financial successes along the way. However, I was in a pattern of manifesting people who are "wolves in sheep’s clothing" and got exploited of my talents and not receive the deserving financial rewards that I was meant to get.

In my most recent business joint venture, which lasted till July this year. I manifested a really oppressive business partner who was a preacher of good and generosity but in reality an oppressive bully who takes advantage of people and exploit them. He’s a subjective person whose word has little value because agreements can always be rescinded, using the standard BJE… that means Blame, Justify, Excuse. But when a person starts to be bad with money payments, I guess that is really the end of a partnership, in spite of tolerance level. May he come to his personal awareness shifts soon, so that his full blessings can be manifested.

Needless to say, I was caught in a destructive pattern. However, when I took responsibility that I allowed him to be this way, I realised that I manifested this person into my life to teach me valuable lessons at that life stage. When I allowed the lessons to resonate in me, the lesson being, "Choice is always in our hands", I realised I could choose my pattern of destruction or I could choose for the pattern to stop. I decided that it had to stop and I learned from it.

Funny thing though, thinking back of how I practiced the Law of Attraction, I remembered that one of the principles of the Law of Attraction states that "when you start to visualize and become who you are suppose to become", you start to shed away all those things in your life that does not suit or identify with the new you, because differing energies cannot occupy the same space. It was clear to me that I’m evolving, therefore I no longer resonate to that energy that brought me together with that partner. Another funny thing too is that this business partner of mine, taught me a lot of the necessary skills that made me who I am today and I’m thankful for the knowledge. I accept what happened and I accept that this event simply IS.

Many times in my life, I hear doctrines that says we are suppose to embrace all the "good" and reject or shun the "bad". However, from this experience, I further appreciate the duality of the universe that we live with, that one needs to be able to recognise one side of the duality in order to appreciate the other side of the duality, such as "Poverty" and "Prosperity".

So, to conclude this post, I would like to make a point that the Law of Attraction sometimes gives you setbacks, trials and tribulations. However, when you hold dear to your faith in the Laws of the Universe, the Universe is friendly and ultimately gives you exactly what you want.

I’m thankful for the life I’m living now and the Successes that I’m currently experiencing as well as those that are brewing.

P.S. Just curious though, I know that another school of thought says that "one could express that angry side and get ‘even’. Therefore making yourself whole and recognising that side of you that is the opposite of ‘nice’, experiencing your own duality and becoming whole". Can I have your thoughts about that please? What do you think? In the quest for wholeness, should one experience wholeness through recognising personal dualities or experience wholeness through embracing harmony, peace and forgiveness? Or should it be both? Or does the circumstance depict your approach.

Hope this post is useful to you when it comes to recognising a good leader.

It is applicable in a situation when you are choosing to follow a leader or if you are seeking to hire a leader.

Remember this acronym:

H – has a "Helicopter" view of things (aka visionary)

A – Analytical (able to look and a situation from multiple angles)

I – Intuitive

R – Realistic

Also, that leader needs to be Humble yet confident and is able to be a good decision maker, even in difficult situations

A Leader’s Spiritual attribute: Centered and Grounded

Hope that helps.

This is and interesting question that I’ve been posing to myself a lot lately.

Being in the seminars and training business, I get to meet a lot of speakers and trainers from all around the world and I get to meet major seminar organisers whom share stories of what really happens "inside" the world of self-help seminars.

Well, the truth is… the seminars industry is the same as most other industries, we’ve got the good, bad and the ugly. I’ve got the privilege of meeting great speakers and I’ve also had the opportunity to meet some really crappy ones.

But here’s the reflection / lesson that I wanna share here. Many times, I observe the people in this industry saying: "You gotta fake it till you make it" or "Personal branding and Positioning increases your stick-ability factor". I must say that such statements are all true and I’ve seen people who use such mindsets and build themselves into successful individuals.

I also observe that certain speakers become "gurus" not really because they "made it big" using the techniques they preach but rather they became "gurus" because they created a system of teaching and then branded themselves as an expert in that field. Here’s the thing though… All of these speakers resonate an aura of confidence that attracts people to them. In other words, they have been granted with a lot of "Power of Influence".

Spider-man’s uncle Ben mentioned that "With Great Power comes Great Responsibility"… so my question here is: "Do all these speakers know the responsibility that comes with this Power?" Cos many of the people who buy in to what these speakers sell, devote a lot of hard earned money, time and heart into the "possible" dream.

What I’m alluding to here is a type of individual who resonates confidence and persuasion power, an individual who has the ability to make you salivate over his product or service and then influence you to part with your hard earned money or even cause you to take that risk on your credit card.

So how to you differentiate between the authentic teacher / speaker and the one that is not?

You can see their intentions. The authentic one has got follow up programmes and local support, plus a team of support staff, who will be willing to hand-hold you through the learning process. (Tip: Observe the team… They are usually happy and relaxed, congruent and harmonious when interacting with the speaker.)

Of course, the price is also reasonable. What is reasonable? You decide cos every product / service if different. The truth here is "They are interested in You!" and they genuinely want you to be successful using their teachings because they became successful walking their talk.

As for the unauthentic ones, usually they just want your money. They’ll try to sell you their courses and "get rich quick" schemes and here’s the thing. Follow up usually sucks with these kinds of speakers and delivery is lousy.

How to test them? Sometimes it is tough because they’ve got such good "packaging". However, you can recognise this individual by his "caught up with making Big money fast!" mindset, rather than providing value and maintaining a long term relationship.

My conclusion here is simple. Buyers Beware! There’s a Chinese proverb that says: "Waves do not happen without Wind". So if you do find some bad press about a speaker, investigate further before signing up for his programme. You are able to sniff out his sincerity. Truly authentic and sincere speakers have your welfare at heart and seeks a win-win between teacher and student and they are nurturing in nature.

I guess… to answer the original question, when you see confidence become cocky-ness in a speaker / teacher, it is not about you anymore. It is about him and that is an indication that he’s just not that into you.

There are always 3 choices when faced with a tough decision though:

Accept It. If you can’t accept it…

Change It. If you can’t change it…

Leave it.

I’ve been thinking of this topic a lot lately and I thought I’d pen down something about it.

Many times in my business life, I see people who are out to make a BIG windfall. They go to wealth creation seminars, try the next "get rich quick" scheme, test various investment vehicles and most of the time, the end up finding themselves at the same place that they originally started. Sometimes being even more broke and desperate.

I’m also writing this because I see many close friends doing the same thing. Sincere, honest people seeking to make an honest earning but most of the time, the mindset of making Big money causes them to forget something simple and essential… Cashflow!

Sincerely, I care for these people and I hope that they can see that making consistent increments of cashflow
accumulates to a substantial amount of money. And what comes with that are emotions such as security, peace of mind and harmony.

It is really a simple question:

"If you can choose between making $100,000 and $10,000… which would you choose?"

Most people when asked this question will not hesitate to answer $100,000. However, If I change the question to:

"If you can choose between making $100,000 a year vs $10,000 a week… which would you choose?"

The answer is really simple. $10,000 a week is faster than $100,000 a year.

So… the mindset that I’d like to address here is… seek transactions that allows you to make fast (but most of the time smaller) amounts of money, rather than go through a period of "no cashflow" just to have the bigger amount of money.

In the long run, this is more sustainable.

Dear Friends,

I must really apologise for the long absence here on this site. I’ve not been writing for months and frankly, I kind of miss writing those deep deep stuff that I usually write about.

Therefore, it is a resolution of mine that I start writing again… and regularly.

If you do have a topic that you’d like me to write about, or better yet, give you a video response, please let me know and I’ll answer your questions to the best of my knowledge and intuition.

Meanwhile, I wish you a very great week ahead.

Andrew Tan
The Abundant Achiever