Archive for July, 2007

Call me idealistic! But I do care for the world. It’s like whenever I see bullying, oppression and injustice happening, It pains me.

However, instead of fighting against such acts (Eg, WAR against Terrorism), I believe it is more important to seek resolution through peaceful means, through inspiration, through kindled spirits and through the renewal of the mind.

With noble intent, I truly believe that the world can change for the better and its people can evolve into more conscious beings. All it takes is a person to say, “Let the change begin with me.” Then perhaps someday… we could truly see… a world at peace.

It brings me great pleasure to share with you this video entitled “If Everyone Cared” by Nickelback. It has brought me hope and faith to carry one being a Social Change Agent and I hope it’ll also encourage you to become an agent to make this world… our world… a better place for everyone.

How? I can suggest one way for now. That is to dream a bigger dream for yourself. Give yourself permission to become truly free (financial and time). So that our minds can vibrate at a higher level, to think beyond mere survival. I believe when you avail yourself to a higher purpose, the universe takes care of necessity.

Enjoy the music video.

Here’s a ‘Don’t Quit’ poem that has been hanging on my bedroom door for about 6 years now. Wanna share it with you. Hope it lifts up your spirits.

Don’t Quit

When things go wrong as they sometimes will,
When the road you are trudging seems all uphill,
When the funds are low and the debts are high,
And you want to smile but you have to sigh,
When care is pressing you down a bit,
Rest if you must but don’t you quit.

Life is queer with its twists and turns,
As everyone of us sometimes learns,
And many a failure turns about,
When he might have won had he stuck it out;
Don’t give up though the pace seems slow,
You may succeed with another blow.
Success is failure turned inside out,
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt,

And you never can tell how close you are
It may be near when it seems so far;
So stick to the fight when you are hardest hit,
It’s when things seem worst that you must not quit.

I was riding in the MRT (Singapore’s subway system) today at about 10pm and was observing the facial expressions of Singaporeans. Trying to read their feelings and I made a startling distinction. There were around 30 plus people in the area I was standing at and many of them looked miserable! No smiles…. With a frown….. In deep thought that looks more like deep worrying……

While observing that, I immediately got a gloomy feeling, like I was getting sucked into some world of misery. It felt terrible and I asked myself, are Singaporeans generally miserable?

Then I remembered the saying, “what you see is always what you get.” I was focusing on the misery, and that’s exactly what I got. So I started looking around again for a happy face and there they were. 2 people smiling and chatting with each other, in a happy mood! I checked my feeling and found that I felt happy too. Interestingly, all it took was to change my focus!

I believe that all people are looking to be happy in their day-to-day lives but are sometimes trapped in a zone of misery. I guess the moral of this story is “No matter how much misery you are being surrounded by, there is always a happy incident happening around you that could lift you up.”

So please my dear friends. Watch your thoughts. Choose your focus.

Sometimes in our life when we feel pessimistic or even worn out, maybe life has been tough and we think we cannot carry on, that’s the time when we truly need to persevere, to be able to grow despite all the challenge. Cos with No Pain, comes No Gain.

Thanks to Sam who shared this with me, I hope it inspires you, as much as it has inspired me. To know that it is the toughest, when you are reaching you goal. Don’t Quit!

Many times I see good people seeking to make relationships work……. or people who lost hope on ever having a great relationship, I hope there was something that could just give them a little hope about relationships.

I also see friends of mine, whom… because they didn’t nurture their relationships well from the beginning, end up getting a seperation. Ain’t this sad, aren’t we all good people who just want relationships to work?

So why do couples choose to be “Right” rather than choose to be Harmonious? To choose to fight or choose to “teach the other a lesson” rather than talk it out and resolve? Is our egos so important that it is worth ruining a great relationship?

Barbara De Angelis said in an audio program, withholding information from your other half about even as trivial as something that happened at the workplace, is like putting a brick in between you and your loved one. When all these bricks finally become a brick wall, couples come to a stage where they say things like… “I know I love him/her, but I don’t feel like I’m IN LOVE with him/her”. Ain’t that tragic? When all that is needed to rekindle the love in that relationship is to open up communication again? Something to think about…

But rather than letting relationships come to a sorry stage, perhaps I could share with you some info that builds relationships properly, on a day-to-day basis so as to create a strong foundation in your relationship. For those who are single, I hope that the 10 things happy couples do can give you some added inspiration about relationships.

Ultimately, my hope for the world is for people to have happy, fulfilling relationships that nurture individuals as well as allow couples to attain couple goals, with strong and lasting love still growing from strength to strength. Hey, perhaps even the troubled youth situation could be reduced.

For the article on the 10 things happy couples do, please visit